"People are perfectly happy to see women as sex objects, but the actual biologic of our bodies is apparently gross and unmentionable."
- Our Bodies, Ourselves.
(Part 1) I was raped when I was 15 (five years ago). When I started having sex again a few months later, it was pretty easy to do — and I even entered into a BDSM relationship as a sub. I felt like maybe I just wasn't that affected or something. But I never really let anybody eat me out. Recently my long-term boyfriend has been really pushing for it because he loves it and doesn’t get why I hate it so much. I cry a lot during or immediately afterwards. I guess it makes sense that its easier
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(Part 2) to be “submissive” or in pain during sex than it is to be totally vulnerable and the sole focus of pleasure, but I’m not sure how to deal with that duality. Should I “push through” it so that I can be accustomed to having positive sex that is centered on me, or should I just avoid it altogether? I’d hate to lose the opportunity to enjoy something like that but I don’t know if flooding myself repeatedly with difficult experiences will be a bad idea.
… the fact that your boyfriend is pushing for it because he loves it- despite the fact that you said no- despite the fact that you cry during and afterward…
I think you might be asking me the wrong question here.
that sounds a hell of a lot like rape.
He has no- NO- literally NO zero, zilch, nada right to ask you to do something that hurts you. I don’t care if its his favorite goddamn thing on the planet.
That isn’t positive sex that is centered on you. It isn’t positive in the slightest. He’s being a self centered, self serving bastard and I don’t usually say that shit- but so many shades of no. he has no right. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t understand why you hate it. he has no right. none. zilch. zada. nada.
Some people don’t like being eaten out. Some people do. You don’t have to try. ever. again.
The only reason you should try it is because /you/ honestly want to and you should only try it with someone who is going to respect you when you say no or stop when you’re crying.
"The hyper-sexualization of little girls and their bodies, as a mother, really bothers me. It plays into the sexualization of their bodies into their teenager years and adult life. It makes them grow up faster than they need to. Let them be little girls, have fun, be able to play in the playground and not worry about going on the monkey bars because someone’s going to see their underwear. Something like this constricts their movements, which affects the way they play."
Jenny Reid, a volunteer firefighter with Langford Fire Rescue, says the costume is not only offensive to women in her field, it’s also damaging to the self-esteem of little girls.
"That costume is awful and it sends the wrong message," she says. "It reinforces that there are still jobs that are off-limits to women. It’s not a representation of the real job. Little girls can do whatever they want. They shouldn’t be restricted. Those types of costumes put so many limitations on them. They don’t build the self-esteem and confidence you need to be a firefighter or police officer." " [x]
You know what I like, and feel is so important? That he doesn’t say “Men thinks those are THEIR positions”. He says “We think those are OUR positions.”
As a male feminist, he still doesn’t exclude himself from the group of men.
A new service is angling to help out women worried about how their rejection will be handled by overly-aggressive gentleman callers. It’s called the Feminist Phone Intervention, and it’s a brilliantly simple trick for socially active.
It works like this: The next time you give a man your number to get him to leave you alone, use this one: (669) 221-6251, courtesy of the folks over Feminist Intervention. When someone calls that number, they’ll reach a computer-recorded message of a bell hooks quotation — so you can “protect your privacy while dropping some feminist knowledge when your unwanted ‘suitor’ calls or texts,” the website explains. It works for texts, too.
caligula had anime eyes
wait romans painted their marble sculptures
it looks like a cheap theme park ride mascot
here’s a statue of Augustus
and here’s a reproduction of the statue with the colors restored
i honestly think that what we consider the height of sculpture in all of Western civilization being essentially the leftover templates of gaudy pieces of theme park shit to be evidence of the potential merit of found art
"I tried coloring it and then I ruined it"
And you know what the funniest part is? The paint didn’t just wear off over time. A bunch of asshole British historians back in the Victorian era actually went around scrubbing the remaining paint off of Greek and Roman statues - often destroying the fine details of the carving in the process - because the bright colours didn’t fit the dignified image they wished to present of the the cultures they claimed to be heirs to. This process also removed visible evidence of the fact that at least some of the statues thus stripped of paint had originally depicted non-white individuals.
Whenever you look at a Roman statue with a bare marble face, you’re looking at the face of imperialist historical revisionism.
(The missing noses on a lot of Egyptian statues are a similar deal. It’s not that the ancient Egyptians made statues with strangely fragile noses. Many Victorian archaeologists had a habit of chipping the noses off of the statues they brought back, then claiming that they’d found them that way - because with the noses intact, it was too obvious that the statues were meant to depict individuals of black African descent.)
Sorry, I keep reblogging this over and over, the last comment is unbelievable. Wow.